Paris has changed a lot in the last few decades. Not so long ago, the tourist circuit was limited to a small number of famous locations, and you’d find few locals who spoke more than a handful of phrases in English. These days, Paris is a more worldly, cosmopolitan place. However, the densely packed French capital still has its distinct way of doing things. Parisian culture places huge value on food, beauty, and leisure. Many of the faux pas (at least in the eyes of Parisians) made by visitors occur when these sacred principles are infringed. From dining to (not) queuing, here’s your easy guide to navigating the City of Lights the Parisian way.
1. Never forget to say ‘bonjour’
In French culture, it is absolutely essential to say bonjour when you’re going into any café, restaurant, smaller shop, or even a small enclosed space, such as an elevator. It’s a piece of social punctuation, and leaving it out feels as unnatural to French people as not saying “excuse me” or “sorry” might to a Brit. You should also say au revoir when you leave. This rule applies when asking someone for help or directions: excusez-moi might feel like the most polite opening to some, but Parisians will still expect you to open the conversation with a bonjour or bonsoir.
2. Treat waiting staff like esteemed equals
In France, hospitality is a revered pillar of French savoir-faire (know-how), and workers in the industry are treated with utmost respect. Staff in higher-end establishments are rigorously trained in specialised schools. Even in more everyday bistros, the waiters’ duties extend to welcoming you, seating you suitably, advising on the wine and specials, taking orders (often without writing them down), and checking you’re happy during the meal. While in UK and American culture, waiters may often be part-time or temporary workers, many in Paris are permanent employees with a steady salary who don’t rely on tips. The relationship between customer and waiter, therefore, is different from what many might be used to; it’s more relational and less transactional.
3. Remember to carry some cash
In Paris, things are still a touch more old-school compared to some other major cities. While you can pay by card in most places, many smaller businesses still have a minimum amount for card payments, so be sure to carry a little cash around. This is also useful for small tips in restaurants.
