Maximizing Fun During Travel with Gretchen Rubin’s Insights
If there’s one occasion that should be all about happiness, it’s definitely vacation. Traveling brings untold joy; however, the dynamics with your companions can also introduce tension, indecision, drama, and stress. Fortunately, Gretchen Rubin, a five-time NYT bestselling author and happiness expert, offers valuable insights to navigate these challenges. As the co-host of the Happier podcast and founder of The Happiness Project, Rubin is proficient in harmonizing different personality tendencies, especially when it comes to planning and enjoying a trip.
Understanding Your Tendency
The first step is taking her Four Tendencies quiz, which reveals your personality type based on inner and outer expectations. The options include Rebel, Questioner, Obliger, and Upholder. Understanding how these tendencies relate to traveling can enhance your vacation experience. Rubin emphasizes that your tendency influences the type of vacation you find relaxing and enjoyable.
Rebel
For a Rebel, the idea of being locked into a rigid schedule is quite unappealing. Rubin notes that Rebels can unintentionally upset companions who prefer structured plans. To accommodate them, she suggests an open conversation: “Say, ‘Hey, we’re in Paris, and it could be really cool to check out the flea markets. I heard about this great cheese tour, or there’s this gorgeous museum — what do you feel like doing?’ This approach fosters a sense of choice and spontaneity, leading to fun and unexpected moments during travel.
Questioner
Questioners thrive on detailed information, often conducting extensive research on the best hotels, deals, and must-see attractions. However, this can lead to analysis paralysis due to the overwhelming amount of options. Rubin suggests that pairing a Questioner with a person who can help make decisions more efficiently can enhance the travel experience. “Sometimes you don’t know what you’re getting yourself into, and that’s part of the fun,” she adds.
Obliger
Obligers typically prioritize the wants of those around them, often neglecting their own desires when faced with others’ preferences. Rubin recommends a strategy to ensure everyone feels included in the planning process: have each person write down three things they want to do and then compare wishes. This way, the itinerary reflects everyone’s interests. It’s critical for Obligers to remember that vacation is a time to engage in enjoyable experiences that resonate personally as well.
Upholder
Upholders, including Rubin herself, may exhibit rigidity in travel plans. They usually have a clear vision of what should occur and may struggle with unexpected changes. Rubin advises Upholders to ensure flexibility and incorporate extra time for discoveries beyond the scheduled plans. “Travel is not merely about checking off a to-do list; it’s about immersing oneself in the experience,” she concludes.
